Forgiveness is one of the most misunderstood but most powerful acts in marriage.
Many people think forgiving their spouse means excusing the wrong, pretending it didn’t hurt, or acting like it’s okay.
But that’s not true.
To forgive is not to excuse.
To forgive is to release.
It’s saying:
“I will not be the judge, jury, and executioner. I release you to the only One who is both a just Judge and a loving Father.”
It’s trusting that God can deal with your spouse—and the hurt—better than you ever could.
Does that mean you shouldn’t set boundaries?
Not at all.
You may still need to take wise steps to prevent the same thing from happening again.
But you can do it without bitterness. Without resentment. Without vengeance.
When you release your spouse to God, you’re the one who finds freedom.
As Jesus said in Matthew 6:14,
“If you forgive others their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.”
Forgiveness opens the door to healing—for you, your spouse, and your home.
Let love lead.
Blessings,
Ade