Anger is a relationship killer — not because it exists, but because it’s often used (knowingly or not) as a tool to control the other person.
What usually makes you angry with your spouse?
If you look closely, it’s often because something they did — or failed to do — got in the way of something you wanted or expected.
And when that happens, most of us react.
We raise our voices.
Say hurtful words.
Shut down.
Withdraw affection.
Or go silent.
But here’s what I’ve learned:
The best way to tame anger is to see it differently.
Instead of focusing on what your spouse did to make you angry, ask:
What pain or fear might be driving their behavior?
What hurt are they trying to protect or fix — in a way that ends up hurting me?
This perspective won’t always remove the feeling of anger immediately,
but it will help you break the cycle of hurt → reaction → more hurt.
Today, make up your mind:
I will not let anger control my actions.
Let love — not anger — take the lead.
Blessings,
Ade