Today we drove from Regina to Calgary — and somewhere along the long prairie roads, I was reminded of something powerful about marriage:
Every couple faces conflicts.
But you can choose to see them as opportunities — opportunities to know your spouse better, to understand their heart, and to grow closer instead of drifting apart.
On our road trip, we’ve had moments where things could have turned tense. But we made a choice before we started: this trip is going to be fun — and we both work together to keep it that way.
Someone recently asked us with concern,
“Why are you doing this?”
I smiled and said,
“Because shared adventures — even with their challenges — are one of the best ways to deepen connection.”
The same is true for marriage conflicts.
- Instead of avoiding them, lean in with curiosity: What is my spouse really feeling?
- Instead of fighting to win, fight to understand.
- Instead of holding onto offense, choose forgiveness quickly (like those waterfalls reminded me earlier this week!).
If you decide in advance to make your marriage a safe, joy-filled space — even the hard conversations can become stepping stones instead of stumbling blocks.
Blessings,
Ade