Author: Ade

Indifference in a marriage is worse than daily disputes. Can a marriage that has fallen into indifference be revived? Yes of course! Is there anything too difficult for GOD? I have seen marriages revived from indifference, from separation, and after talking about divorce. The principles for reviving marriages are similar regardless of the marriage. However,…

I’m happy to be back in Canada! Here is what I am learning: Everyday I understand clearer and clearer that the secret to loving like Jesus is to: Get out of the way so that Jesus can love through you! Christ in you will bring the healing you need and He will bring rivers of…

Remember that the spouse you have is the one you need to work with. You may be tempted to wish that your spouse did not have the weaknesses they have. And you may be wondering why your spouse does not have the strengths you see in other people. I have discovered that if you develop…

we all want to be valued. We want to be admired for our uniqueness. And truly so because you are priceless. There is no one exactly like you. God’s design was for us to focus more on appreciating others and automatically get admired and appreciated. Unfortunately, most of us are now very self-absorbed and self-centered.…

You do not respect me You are too worldly You don’t care about me You are too jealous You wasted our money You destroyed our marriage This list has no end and it doesn’t help in any way. Here is what will help. The last point is the most challenging especially when you don’t have…

If you feel you are losing your wife or that you have lost her, I have good news for you. Here is one mistake that most men make when they notice that they are losing their wives. They get into the “fix the problem” mode. But that only drives her further away because it feels…

I’m in Nigeria right now, and my interactions with the people remind me of the need to know how to love. I have met a good number of people who are really troubled and as such very irritable. To love is to:  Treat people the way you want to be treated regardless of how you…

How long should you complain about your spouse’s wrongs before giving up? Is this what marriage is about? A miserable life of hurt after hurt? After praying and following God’s strategy, and you don’t see any changes, what next? You wait! But while waiting, You make sure that you are growing. How do you know…

Never Give up. I ran 800 meters when I was in high school. And one thing that always happened at the end of the race is that my body always wants to stop. But I keep telling myself to take just one more step and make it count. That’s how I do all my stuff…

Your marriage should not be a source of tears. It should not be a source of pain, worry, or fear. Your marriage (your spouse) should be a source of joy, hope, strength, peace and more. Life happens, the devil attacks, and really sad things happen. Should you then continue to suffer? I say NO! You…

How does something so sweet become so painful after some years of marriage? Is marriage not meant to be sweeter as time passes? Yes, if your marriage has the right foundation it will get sweeter. God designed husbands and wives to be best friends but many things have made it difficult for this to happen.…

The real reason why marriages break is because one spouse is unable to handle the weakness of the other. You have weakness and so does your spouse. What if you can discover a way to make your spouse see their weakness and begin to work on them? What if you can get help to handle…

Put on your oxygen mask before helping your children? When I heard this for the first time I was surprised because I would have thought otherwise. But this is the best way. You can only help others when you are conscious to help them. Especially when you know that they are helpless without you. This…

God’s strategy is LOVE! “but God shows his love for us in that while we were still sinners, Christ died for us. Romans 5:8” We are designed by God who is LOVE. So we are always longing for LOVE and we know what LOVE should look and feel like. However, because we hardly see real…

My high school teacher taught me this principle and it has helped me a lot: Pray as if your success depends only on prayers and, Study as if your success depends only on studying. I have discovered that the principle still stands in my life and marriage. For 5 days I will be discussing God’s…

Failure when learning a new skill is not failure. We applaud a person who makes an attempt to learn a new skill. My first couple of attempts at loving without conditions felt weird. When you first decide to tap into Agape, you may find that it doesn’t work as planned. This is because you are…

As a believer, you must understand that you are in warfare. You have an enemy who wants to destroy you. (1 Peter 5:8) But you have a Father who has given you authority over the enemy.(Eph 1:18-23) Many people do not know how to resist the enemy and as such, the devil is destroying many…

What is the prayer of Faith (James 5:15)? It is prayer based on a word from God! Nothing can stop the prayer of faith (James 5:15). But most of us do not know what the prayer of faith looks like. Most people pray the prayer of hope. Or the prayer of fear. During the prayer…

What is wrong with these prayer requests? While these prayers express your desires to our all-powerful Heavenly Father, they often go unanswered. Why? Because we may not be willing to change ourselves. It’s like asking your father, “Please help me get an excellent grade in math without doing any extra work.” The desire for excellence…

Why do some believers get what they want in prayers and others do not? Is there a wrong way to pray? Yes. We can pray wrongly and with the wrong motives (James 4:1-3). And I prayed wrongly for many years. Today during the prayer session we discussed the next state of mind that you need…