Author: Ade

Imagine this: You’re excited to plan a spontaneous weekend getaway, but your spouse prefers a quiet weekend at home with a book.Or, you want to process an argument right now, but your spouse needs time alone to reflect before talking. Sound familiar? If so, you know the challenges of communicating when your spouse’s personality is…

I recently came across a powerful story I read online many years ago called “The Law of the Garbage Truck,” and I knew I had to share it with you. A taxi driver explained this concept to a passenger: “Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of frustration, anger, and disappointment. As…

One of the biggest mistakes many people make in marriage is believing that people don’t change. They convince themselves that their spouse will never change—yet deep down, they’re secretly waiting for them to do just that. This contradiction is what leads to frustration, disappointment, and pain. Here’s the truth: People do change.You became a new…

Did you know that over 2,000 divorces happen every day in the USA alone? Many of these marriages began in the church, between Christians who prayed for their relationships. But as James 4:3 reminds us, some prayers don’t get answered because they are asked with the wrong motives. In my latest livestream, I shared one of the powerful tools…

Do you have a truly great friend? This week, a friend I’ve known since 1989 told me he’s traveling all the way from Manchester, UK, to celebrate my 50th birthday with me. That got me thinking—what makes friendships like this so special? Chances are, your closest friends show their love in these three ways: 1️⃣…

Hi Friend, Yesterday’s livestream was a blast! The key takeaway? A great marriage—or any great relationship—doesn’t happen by chance or luck. A thriving marriage happens when you do simple things consistently over time. Think of it like riding a bike:🚴‍♂️ As long as you’re pedaling, you keep moving forward.🚴‍♂️ Stop pedaling, and eventually, you’ll slow…

I prayed for you yesterday. And while praying, I felt led to share the top 3 lessons God has taught me about building a marriage that keeps getting better every year. Here they are: 1️⃣ Be honest with your heart – When you deal with your own heart first, you learn how to love deeply…

Hi Friend, A while ago, I read a book about love and marriage, and one lesson stood out: When your spouse says something hurtful, just say “ouch.” 💬 “Ouch” says, “That hurt me,” without saying, “You’re a jerk.”💬 It communicates, “I wish you hadn’t said that,” while still leaving room for an apology. Sometimes, your…

In a study of newlyweds by John Gottman, couples who stayed together for at least six years “turned towards” each other 86% of the time, while those who divorced did so only 33% of the time. What does it mean to “turn towards” your spouse? It means using every opportunity to show that you care.…

Even if your answer is yes! You can become better friends. And if your answer is no, This video will help you with that. Bessings, -Ade

If you learn how to pray and hear from God, you are truly blessed. But if you add obedience to those, you will be filled with joy and fruitfulness. In my 20 years as a pastor, I’ve found that the biggest challenge for believers is obedience. What is God telling you to do? Do it.…

What is a relationship without communication? Nothing. Few things are as fulfilling as feeling truly understood and accepted. A dear sister once told me, with tears in her eyes, that she thinks her husband hates her. Why? Because he doesn’t listen and doesn’t seem to care about her needs. If you’ve ever felt this way,…

It’s also hard to love when you’re just trying to survive. The truth is, most people carry deep wounds. That’s why the Bible says: “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” – Jeremiah 17:9 (ESV) Or as the NLT puts it:“The human heart is the most deceitful of…

Can all marriages improve? No. Some marriages are beyond repair. But they are not many. Here are the 3 main things I check for in a marriage to know if it can improve or not. 1) Does at least one spouse know one or two ways in which they can improve?2) Is the spouse I…

Today, my wife Olu’s dad transitioned to glory. He was 94 years old. So, we are grateful for a life well spent. It’s a tough day, nonetheless. I am going to spend most of this weekend helping her process, accept, and celebrate her dad’s new state. So my word of encouragement for you is this.…

One of the biggest revelations that I have received about love and marriage is this. Every action is either an act of love or a cry for love. I know it is hard to understand or agree with at first. But it is true. Use yourself as an example. Review your actions today. You are…

How much are you worth? No, really—how much value do you place on yourself? This is one of the most important questions you can ask because it directly affects how you treat yourself, your spouse, and your marriage. The truth is, the lower you value yourself, the more struggles you’ll face in your marriage. But…

Many years ago, The Lord taught me that, the best prayer I can pray for my wife is for her to know Him more. To be ALL that God designed her to be. To be more obedient to Him. Now I find it easy to pray these kinds of prayers because I pray them for…

Yesterday a friend told me about his divorce. He told me of the emotional stress he experienced in his marriage. And as he shared I wondered, How did you guys get to become so opposed to each other? They met in Bible College. They were in love. But they had weaknesses. And satan used their…

Today we read Isaiah Chapter 40:28 at our staff meeting. God reminded me that He is a BIG God. So I should expect BIG things from HIM. Today I challenge you to expect Big Things from your heavenly Father. Then begin to take action in obedience to receive what you trust God to do. God…