Author: Ade

I’m sure you know how it feels to work very hard at something and it just doesn’t work. You try one way, then another way and then again… After trying 20 or more times you conclude that something is wrong. This just can’t work. Just as you are about to give up, You discover ..…

Who is your Heavenly Father? How powerful is He? Your confidence in God your Father reflects so much in the way you show up in your marriage! God loves you very much!!! Blessings, -Ade

I love oranges.. but not all oranges taste good. If you find a good orange tree, all its fruits will be very similar. They would be delicious and juicy. Do you know that the orange fruit never becomes bitter just because the person who plucks it is wicked? Similarly, if you choose to continue to…

Sometimes all you need is the last number in the combination to open the lock. Or just a little tweak in your presentation and the contract is yours. But it can be very frustrating when you don’t get that last number or that little tweak. All the things you got right seem useless without that…

I know that this statement sounds exaggerated. But this is how some people feel. If your spouse keeps hurting you over and over again and you don’t know how to make them stop, you may say the same thing! But.. I am happy to say that, the same person who asked the question is happy…

One of the biggest lies that believers who are having a difficult time in their marriages have accepted is that love is weak. Do you feel that loving will only lead to more pain and disappointments? If so, you may not understand the power of Perfect Love! This Sunday, I am led to remind you…

What do these things have in common? They can be very expensive but they are usually free. Can I add love to this list? When you understand the power of perfect love and how it can change your life, you will be amazed. During our coaching meeting last night, one of the lovely ladies said…

Does “Perfect Love” even exist? How can you get it? Here is the short answer! I will have the long form for you on Saturday! Perfect Love is what God uses to turn any marriage around! It is what God used to make my marriage wonderful! Until we discovered “Perfect Love” we struggled like everyone!…

Here is a mistake that a lot of people make in marriage! They react too quickly to the situations in their marriage. Whether it’s responding to disrespectful words or feeling unsupported, it’s easy to fall into a pattern of reacting without addressing the underlying issues. While it’s natural to react when something bothers us, just…

The way you deal with money in your marriage can be a good indicator of how things are between the 2 of you (there are always exceptions). If you share everything openly, then you are quite connected and if you do not, there is room for growth. The goal of course is for a couple…

Happy Ressurection Sunday! This season always reminds me that we serve a very loving and good God. He loves us regardless of our weaknesses! And because of that! Death no longer has power over us. We have a hope that when our journey here on earth is done! We would be with Him in Joy…

Time is our most valuable possession. As precious as it is, you cannot store it up. You can only invest it. How much of it do you invest in worshiping God? And how much do you invest in listening to GOD? I like this lesson I learned a while back. Let the time you spend…

What should you do if your spouse has a habit that annoys you and is not healthy for the marriage? I get this question a lot. Usually, the problem is a little deeper than just being annoyed by the habit of your spouse. Some of the underlying problems could be: 1) You are stressed by…

As a child of God, who or what should be your priority? When working with clients, I find that this is not as clear as it should be. Here is a priority list for you to consider, in order of importance. Why? Because God owns you, and gave you your spouse to form a team…

Then what is the problem? If you find it difficult to talk about money in your relationship, you are not alone. Most couples do. Why? Because money plays a big role in our lives. Money can give you power, protection, pleasure and praise. These are all things that we enjoy. So most people are very…

Kindness + Consistency + Patience can turn a beast into a prince! In Scriptural terms: A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 ESV Blessings, -Ade

Yes, catch your spouse doing the right thing. It’s easier to catch people doing the wrong things… But most adults do many things right every day and children too! For your spouse, practice catching them doing the right thing and appreciating it. You may wonder… Will this not make them feel that I am okay…

One of the big mistakes that Christians make about marriage is this: They assume that they have a unique situation that is resistant to change. Their reasoning goes like this: My spouse is the problem. I have tried everything I can to change them. I am now so exhausted. I have no energy to try…

Most of us do not know the power of love! Many people think love is weak. Some even think that love is for women. If you know LOVE! You will know that LOVE is stronger and greater than anything you can think of or imagine! Everything you know was created by LOVE! Nothing is impossible…

I know that most people on my list are not in abusive relationships. But I feel led by God to write this for those who are! And to stimulate you to help those who are around you! DO NOT IGNORE ABUSE! Why? Because an abusive spouse needs help! Imagine a spouse who suddenly discovers that…