Imagine someone trying to open a lock.
They’re sweating. Twisting. Jiggling the key. Kicking the door.
They’ve been at it for hours—maybe days—only to discover…
They’ve been using the wrong key the whole time.
Sometimes, I meet people in marriages just like that.
They’re working hard. Reading books. Praying. Trying to “fix” things.
But they’re not seeing results—not because marriage takes forever to heal,
but because they’re not working on the right things in the right order.
If that’s you, here’s what I’ve found always works when applied in alignment:
1. Clarity
What are you bringing into the marriage?
And how is your spouse actually perceiving your love, your communication, your intentions?
2. Commitment
Do your actions say, “I’m in this for the long haul”?
Or do they whisper something else—“I’m here… for now.”
3. Connection
Are you growing emotionally, spiritually, and physically together?
Or just existing side-by-side?
This is the path.
Not force. Not frantic effort.
But clarity, commitment, and connection—built on God’s love, in the right order.
Let’s stop jiggling the wrong key.
Let’s open the door to joy and intimacy—with wisdom.
Blessings,
Ade