Imagine going to hug your spouse and they say, “Ouch!”
What would you do? Most people would pause and ask, “What happened?”
They might reply, “I felt a sharp pain,” and you’d likely say, “Oh—I didn’t know. I’m sorry! What happened?”
They might explain, “My arm—I got hurt yesterday.”
That kind of care is natural when we notice someone is physically hurting.
But what about emotional pain?
If your spouse says something that hurts your feelings, try saying just one word: “Ouch.”
Not in a harsh or sarcastic way—but gently, honestly, from the heart.
Don’t hurt them back.
Don’t shut down and hope they figure it out.
Just say, “Ouch.” You’ll be amazed at how this small word can lead to healing and deeper connection.
I first learned this from Laura Doyle’s book The Empowered Wife, and it’s helped many couples experience a shift in emotional intimacy.
“A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger.” — Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)
When was the last time you said “ouch” instead of lashing out or shutting down?
I’d love to hear your story. Just hit “Reply” and let me know.
Blessings,
Ade