What makes a person want to be around you?
When they feel lifted, encouraged, seen, appreciated!!
This is how to be a magnetic spouse!
By learning to bring out the best in your spouse!
This is easier said than done! But It can be done! I am a witness.
Here are some examples of how to do that!
- Make it easy for them to share anything on their mind. You do this by celebrating with them when they are celebrating and by comforting them when they are grieving!
- Refrain from giving advice or suggestions especially when they haven’t asked for it. Instead, ask how you can help.
- Celebrate their successes no matter how small! And make sure you are their greatest cheerleader.
- When they say they are hurt, believe that they are. Try to hear, “I am hurt” instead of “You hurt me”. Even when they say “You hurt me”.
- Listen for what they say and what they do not say! This is how you get to do all the above properly.
This is one area where I have had to coach people more often than others!
It takes some practice to become good at making your spouse feel like a million bucks around you! Especially because you still have to speak the truth in love!
Blessings
-Ade