Author: Ade

Don’t ignore your deep craving to be fully loved and valued for who you are. You were created with that longing—it’s not weakness, it’s divine design. But here’s where many get it wrong:We assume that only God can satisfy that craving. While it’s absolutely true that our deepest needs for love are met in Him,…

A strong, joy-filled marriage begins with how you see yourself. If you don’t feel lovable, capable, or valued, you’ll struggle to give and receive love freely.You may even misinterpret your spouse’s actions through the lens of insecurity. But when you begin to see yourself the way God sees you—chosen, accepted, and dearly loved—you show up…

One of the biggest mistakes people make about love and marriage is assuming this:“If I marry the right person, everything will work out just fine.” That’s like saying, “If I get a good bicycle, it’ll be easy to ride.” So when things get tough, they look at other couples and wonder:“Why can’t my spouse be…

Imagine someone trying to open a lock. They’re sweating. Twisting. Jiggling the key. Kicking the door.They’ve been at it for hours—maybe days—only to discover…They’ve been using the wrong key the whole time. Sometimes, I meet people in marriages just like that. They’re working hard. Reading books. Praying. Trying to “fix” things.But they’re not seeing results—not…

Have you heard of the Chinese bamboo tree? When planted, it requires watering and care every day—but for five years, nothing breaks the ground. Then, suddenly, in the fifth year, it shoots up over 80 feet in just six weeks! Did it grow overnight? No—it was growing underground, developing deep roots. Love in marriage is…

Imagine going to hug your spouse and they say, “Ouch!” What would you do? Most people would pause and ask, “What happened?” They might reply, “I felt a sharp pain,” and you’d likely say, “Oh—I didn’t know. I’m sorry! What happened?” They might explain, “My arm—I got hurt yesterday.” That kind of care is natural…

Is there ever a time when kindness isn’t good?Should you always be kind? Yes! As a child of God, kindness isn’t just something you do—it’s who you are. Think of it like this: Should a delicious apple be sweet only to nice people and turn sour for the mean ones? Of course not. If it’s…

Many years ago, I learned something simple but profound:My wife wants to hear how much I love her—as often as I’m willing to say it. But that’s only half of the picture. I also want to know how much she loves me—just not in the same way. She wants me to express it with words,…

Every time I meet someone who wants to turn their marriage around, I check for just three things. If those three things shift, the marriage starts changing—in as little as 7 days. Not perfection. But peace. Progress. Hope. Direction. In this short video, I walk you through: ✅ The 3 core areas that determine your marriage’s…

During a recent coaching call, one of my clients mentioned that his wife loves emojis—but he doesn’t. It made me think… emojis can actually be a blessing—if you learn to use them intentionally and consistently. For example, if you use an emoji to say “I love you” every day, then even on the rough days,…

What do you think the secret to joy is? What if I told you… NONE of those things (or anything else you’ve probably thought of) are the real secret to joy? It’s true—and here’s why: Joy is a choice.It’s not something you find outside of yourself. It’s not dependent on people or circumstances.Joy is a…

Sometimes a student joins the Love Workout Method Membership with one clear desire: They just want peace in their home. If that’s you, maybe you’ve felt like: You’re not just fighting for peace for yourself—you’re also thinking about your children.What are they learning from all this? What kind of future are they being shaped for?…

Hi Friend, When you truly love someone, you see their flaws—and still choose to respond with kindness, patience, and support. That doesn’t mean you ignore shortcomings, failures, or the works of the flesh.It means you’ve chosen to partner with God as part of the solution, inspiring change with love rather than judgment. As a follower…

Have you ever felt like you’re married… but miles apart? Maybe your spouse has been emotionally distant.  The conversations are shallow.  The connection is gone.  And no matter how hard you try,  it feels like you’re the only one fighting to reconnect. If that sounds familiar, this livestream replay will help you a lot. This…

“I don’t feel loved.”“My partner doesn’t support me.” These are two of the most common concerns I hear from struggling spouses. And it’s painful—when the person who’s supposed to have your back feels more like an adversary. Maybe you’ve felt:❌ Unappreciated and alone in your marriage❌ Criticized no matter what you do❌ Taken for granted—like nothing is ever enough❌ Disconnected—wondering if they even love…

Imagine this: You’re excited to plan a spontaneous weekend getaway, but your spouse prefers a quiet weekend at home with a book.Or, you want to process an argument right now, but your spouse needs time alone to reflect before talking. Sound familiar? If so, you know the challenges of communicating when your spouse’s personality is…

I recently came across a powerful story I read online many years ago called “The Law of the Garbage Truck,” and I knew I had to share it with you. A taxi driver explained this concept to a passenger: “Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of frustration, anger, and disappointment. As…

One of the biggest mistakes many people make in marriage is believing that people don’t change. They convince themselves that their spouse will never change—yet deep down, they’re secretly waiting for them to do just that. This contradiction is what leads to frustration, disappointment, and pain. Here’s the truth: People do change.You became a new…

Did you know that over 2,000 divorces happen every day in the USA alone? Many of these marriages began in the church, between Christians who prayed for their relationships. But as James 4:3 reminds us, some prayers don’t get answered because they are asked with the wrong motives. In my latest livestream, I shared one of the powerful tools…

Do you have a truly great friend? This week, a friend I’ve known since 1989 told me he’s traveling all the way from Manchester, UK, to celebrate my 50th birthday with me. That got me thinking—what makes friendships like this so special? Chances are, your closest friends show their love in these three ways: 1️⃣…