Author: Ade

What do you think the secret to joy is? What if I told you… NONE of those things (or anything else you’ve probably thought of) are the real secret to joy? It’s true—and here’s why: Joy is a choice.It’s not something you find outside of yourself. It’s not dependent on people or circumstances.Joy is a…

Sometimes a student joins the Love Workout Method Membership with one clear desire: They just want peace in their home. If that’s you, maybe you’ve felt like: You’re not just fighting for peace for yourself—you’re also thinking about your children.What are they learning from all this? What kind of future are they being shaped for?…

Hi Friend, When you truly love someone, you see their flaws—and still choose to respond with kindness, patience, and support. That doesn’t mean you ignore shortcomings, failures, or the works of the flesh.It means you’ve chosen to partner with God as part of the solution, inspiring change with love rather than judgment. As a follower…

Have you ever felt like you’re married… but miles apart? Maybe your spouse has been emotionally distant.  The conversations are shallow.  The connection is gone.  And no matter how hard you try,  it feels like you’re the only one fighting to reconnect. If that sounds familiar, this livestream replay will help you a lot. This…

“I don’t feel loved.”“My partner doesn’t support me.” These are two of the most common concerns I hear from struggling spouses. And it’s painful—when the person who’s supposed to have your back feels more like an adversary. Maybe you’ve felt:❌ Unappreciated and alone in your marriage❌ Criticized no matter what you do❌ Taken for granted—like nothing is ever enough❌ Disconnected—wondering if they even love…

Imagine this: You’re excited to plan a spontaneous weekend getaway, but your spouse prefers a quiet weekend at home with a book.Or, you want to process an argument right now, but your spouse needs time alone to reflect before talking. Sound familiar? If so, you know the challenges of communicating when your spouse’s personality is…

I recently came across a powerful story I read online many years ago called “The Law of the Garbage Truck,” and I knew I had to share it with you. A taxi driver explained this concept to a passenger: “Many people are like garbage trucks. They run around full of frustration, anger, and disappointment. As…

One of the biggest mistakes many people make in marriage is believing that people don’t change. They convince themselves that their spouse will never change—yet deep down, they’re secretly waiting for them to do just that. This contradiction is what leads to frustration, disappointment, and pain. Here’s the truth: People do change.You became a new…

Did you know that over 2,000 divorces happen every day in the USA alone? Many of these marriages began in the church, between Christians who prayed for their relationships. But as James 4:3 reminds us, some prayers don’t get answered because they are asked with the wrong motives. In my latest livestream, I shared one of the powerful tools…

Do you have a truly great friend? This week, a friend I’ve known since 1989 told me he’s traveling all the way from Manchester, UK, to celebrate my 50th birthday with me. That got me thinking—what makes friendships like this so special? Chances are, your closest friends show their love in these three ways: 1️⃣…

Hi Friend, Yesterday’s livestream was a blast! The key takeaway? A great marriage—or any great relationship—doesn’t happen by chance or luck. A thriving marriage happens when you do simple things consistently over time. Think of it like riding a bike:🚴‍♂️ As long as you’re pedaling, you keep moving forward.🚴‍♂️ Stop pedaling, and eventually, you’ll slow…

I prayed for you yesterday. And while praying, I felt led to share the top 3 lessons God has taught me about building a marriage that keeps getting better every year. Here they are: 1️⃣ Be honest with your heart – When you deal with your own heart first, you learn how to love deeply…

Hi Friend, A while ago, I read a book about love and marriage, and one lesson stood out: When your spouse says something hurtful, just say “ouch.” 💬 “Ouch” says, “That hurt me,” without saying, “You’re a jerk.”💬 It communicates, “I wish you hadn’t said that,” while still leaving room for an apology. Sometimes, your…

In a study of newlyweds by John Gottman, couples who stayed together for at least six years “turned towards” each other 86% of the time, while those who divorced did so only 33% of the time. What does it mean to “turn towards” your spouse? It means using every opportunity to show that you care.…

Even if your answer is yes! You can become better friends. And if your answer is no, This video will help you with that. Bessings, -Ade

If you learn how to pray and hear from God, you are truly blessed. But if you add obedience to those, you will be filled with joy and fruitfulness. In my 20 years as a pastor, I’ve found that the biggest challenge for believers is obedience. What is God telling you to do? Do it.…

What is a relationship without communication? Nothing. Few things are as fulfilling as feeling truly understood and accepted. A dear sister once told me, with tears in her eyes, that she thinks her husband hates her. Why? Because he doesn’t listen and doesn’t seem to care about her needs. If you’ve ever felt this way,…

It’s also hard to love when you’re just trying to survive. The truth is, most people carry deep wounds. That’s why the Bible says: “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” – Jeremiah 17:9 (ESV) Or as the NLT puts it:“The human heart is the most deceitful of…

Can all marriages improve? No. Some marriages are beyond repair. But they are not many. Here are the 3 main things I check for in a marriage to know if it can improve or not. 1) Does at least one spouse know one or two ways in which they can improve?2) Is the spouse I…

Today, my wife Olu’s dad transitioned to glory. He was 94 years old. So, we are grateful for a life well spent. It’s a tough day, nonetheless. I am going to spend most of this weekend helping her process, accept, and celebrate her dad’s new state. So my word of encouragement for you is this.…