You do not respect me
You are too worldly
You don’t care about me
You are too jealous
You wasted our money
You destroyed our marriage
This list has no end and it doesn’t help in any way.
Here is what will help.
- Articulate what effort you see your spouse making (this may be hard at first)
- Declare that you understand that you are one and that you are committed to getting better together.
- Ask how you can help them overcome their weaknesses (things listed above).
- Refuse to be disappointed or discouraged when they don’t change immediately.
The last point is the most challenging especially when you don’t have these:
- A scripture based and time tested strategy
- A coach to keep you motivated and focused on the right steps at the right time.
- A network of other believers on the same journey who will inspire you and console you.
Take action now! Remember Matt 7. Get help!
Blessings,
-Ade