Ask questions and show that you have faith in your spouse.
When you complain you are saying 3 things:
1) You are not meeting my expectations (remember you are not GOD)
2) I don’t care about all the good you have done in the past, all I care about is my comfort and my pleasure.
3) These things that I am complaining about mean more to me than my relationship with you or your well being.
I know that these are not what you want to say,
But this is what your spouse may hear.
I talked about this today on my livestream.
Blessings,
-Ade